It is far too easy to get caught up in the busy-ness of life.
Getting up in the morning, getting out the door for work, negotiating the commute, grabbing a coffee, getting bogged down in the noise of your email account, the office politics, the demands of doing a good job… all leads to never getting to the things you want to be doing.
Is it time for a wake up call?
How do you feel when you wake up each morning? Are you energised and excited for the day ahead? Or are you negotiating with yourself just to wake up?
Now in the Southern Hemisphere we’re looking down the barrel of the end of winter. The change of seasons gives us an opportunity to shine a spotlight on to where we’re at in our life. A spring clean for your life if you will.
Is there something holding you back from feeling inspired, motivated and with direction?
So many of us are caught up in the daily grind. We collapse into bed at the end of the day exhausted, needing to tick the sleep requirement off the list. There’s an alarm to set and another day to survive coming up tomorrow.
If this what’s deemed to be the ‘right’ way to arrange our lives, why does it feel so monotonous and uninspiring?
Modern society has us operating at a highly logical level. We’re acting from our heads, not from our hearts. We have been conditioned to believe that this is the preferred way to operate but is not always the case. There needs to be a balance between achievement and meaning. We need to make opportunities to connect in to our hearts and do things because they feel good, not just because it’s on the list of what needs to be done. This is why it can be so hard to reconcile that need for getting stuff done with the way we are actually feeling.
Many of us just haven’t been given the tools and training to recognise and validate to our feelings and gut instinct. It’s not something they teach at school. It’s not something we learn to hone.
We’ve been raised to be results oriented, tangible achievements. Our society has ingrained this in to us. When I quit my job in my 40’s to go travelling and go full-time as a coach the most common question from my peers was ‘why?’, and really, my only honest answer was ‘because that’s what makes me feel alive’…. Not that I was brave enough to actually say that to people – my response was generally a wisecracked ‘why not?’ or a self depreciating joke about having a mid life crisis.
In a society where we reserve our highest value and respect for people who make business decisions it’s time to swing the pendulum back just a bit and give an increased credence to answering your soul’s desire.
And it can be done without having to pack it all in and go travelling. You can live a life aligned to your core values and your dreams, and still pay the bills. The two are not mutually exclusive. There just needs to be a rebalance.
The time has come to really assess what brings you joy and purpose in your life and incorporate this in to your every day routine. Do it well before the habit becomes a rut, and the rut becomes a prison that you need to smash your way out of.
Connecting in to your purpose.
How you serve the world and use your unique gifts looks different for everyone. It’s not something you can find by scrolling through your social media. It requires getting real with yourself, what your dreams are, how you want to feel. Set a goal to work towards living the life of your dreams, no matter how far fetched it might seem at first.
Your head will try to talk you out of it. You find ‘reasons’ it can’t be done. Push on anyway. Tell that voice that you’re just exploring options, you’re feeling out a new way of living… but I can guarantee, that when you do strike on an action that is aligned with your purpose, there will be no need for reasoning. You’ll be drawn to doing it, no matter what your head says.
Still not feeling like you’ll be able to reconcile your heart’s desire, your gut instinct with your need to pay the bills and sustain your lifestyle? You still need to operate in the world as it is right? I know I still need to. It’s a question of balance. Increasing the priority you give to feeling good does involve a change of mindset and change can be scary. It doesn’t have to be. Set yourself a goal to improve your lot in life and then take one step every day towards making that a reality. Incremental, daily action. That’s how you’ll get there. Each little step builds your belief that it is possible. Each little step strengthens your resolve.
You’ve got this!
You deserve to be emotionally successful as well as successful in other metrics. Now’s the time to find that what makes you feel alive and to bring it in to your every day life. Right where you are.
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